being happy together
hey there!
hope you girls are doing great. i'm currently in a happy relationship after experiencing a disastrous one so i think i’ve learned a thing or two about relationships. i know the basic tips to maintain healthy ones are to communicate, spend time with each other and blah blah blah and although those things are important, i believe there’s more than that.
here i’ve created a short list of unconventional tips that can aid in maintaining a healthy relationship.
enjoy!
HONESTY
always be honest with your partner. you know what they say: lies are bullets, mouth is a gun. the truth will always come out. be honest, say what you need to say. truth is better than any lie.
FIGHT IN PERSON
that might sound like some really weird advice, i know but a lot of the time, words, intentions and feelings tend to get miscommunicated online. texting is perhaps the worst way to talk out a disagreement because it can lead to further disagreements. my boyfriend and i pinky swore to no longer fight online and it’s been going great since. we’d usually put off disagreements till we see each other the next day. if seeing each other is a problem, phone calls and video chats work just fine.
TALK ABOUT THE SENSITIVE THINGS
we all have secrets. we have all done and said weird or mean things or have had those things done and said onto us. communicating these sensitive topics with your significant other can help build trust and allow you both to become more comfortable with each other. of course, you talk about sensitive things only when you’re ready enough to do so; do not rush it and do not allow yourself to be pressured into sharing anything when you are not 110% sure.
HAVE FUN AND BE GOOFY
i mean, if you guys can make fun of each other and you don’t get mad or offended, that’s amazing! but, also know your limits and don’t make fun of things that he/she is insecure about. like never! but just keep having fun and piss of each other in a flirty way! haha. just have fun, do dumb stuff! humor is so important.
my boyfriend is like my best friend, seriously.
STICK AROUND WHEN THEY'RE IN A BAD MOOD (SOMETIMES)
trust me when i say: i know moods are ugh. my boyfriend gets really moody sometimes and doesn’t talk much. it's important to be around them during those moods and during the bad days. not only can your presence help them from feeling much worse but, it helps you learn more about your partner. remember to only stick around someone in a bad mood if it doesn’t harm your own mental health.
DATES
don’t make your relationship a casualty. and when i say date nights, i don’t mean extremely expensive dinner. go out for a good coffee and cake, visit some nice restaurant, go see some movie or just stay at home and eat pizza together.
go back to the places you used to go to when you were starting your relationship.
don’t forget to be romantic!
LEARN TO APOLOGIZE
honey, i don’t like that situation either. but you need to learn to admit that you can be wrong or that you can mess up too. don’t wait, apologize as quickly as you can.
NO GAMES
don’t play games, don’t make your partner feel insecure about you and your relationship. always be there for your partner. it’s really exhausting to be in such relationship. à
SPEND TIME ON YOUR OWN
of course, spending quality time with your partner is important but, it's also important for you to spend time away from your love. spend time with friends and go to a club or for dinner. also, take care of yourself... do things that you want like read a book or take yourself out. fall in love with your solitude too. spending time away from your love, from time to time, helps to maintain your individuality. it can also help to relieve any pent up negativity from your relationship and generally aid you and your partner in getting along better.
SAY WHAT YOU DON'T LIKE
if something hurt you, say that it hurts you. previously, if something hurt me, i would be hesitant to say because i don’t like conflict. i have learned that bottling up all of the hurt in your relationship only leads to resentment. tell your partner what you feel, what made you angry and/or what hurt you. it will probably bring discomfort and tension at first but, talking about it is better in the long run. trust me!
these tips have certainly helped me in my current relationship. remember that i'm not a professional relationship person thingy, i'm simply stating what works for me and i hope at least one of these tips works for you too!
all the best,
V
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